Notices: Primary

Message from the Director Marsden Primary

Kia ora te whānau Marsden Primary

Congratulations to our Primary girls who competed at the Interzones Cross Country on Tuesday. The girls ran so well and we are very proud of their results. A special congratulations to Emma Lowden who came 1st in Year 6 and Isla Dapas who came 7th in Year 5. Emma and Isla will both compete at Regionals on Tuesday 6 July.

Year 5 - Isla Dapas 7th; Ellie Fu 23rd 
Year 6 - Emma Lowden 1st; Alyssa Bai 21st 

We also wish those who are competing at Western Zones Swimming next Tuesday 22 June at Kilbirnie Pool all the very best.

Dr Judith Locke columns
For the next three newsletters, I would like to share with you columns written by Judith Locke which have been published in Australia’s Sunday Mail Newspaper. The column below was published on 28.02.21 and reinforces how important developing independence and responsibility from an early age can set children up for success.

Sherpa’ing Children

Recently, I saw a mother taking her two upper-primary-aged children to school, on a pavement with a steep incline. The mother had the children’s schoolbags on each of her shoulders and was pushing the two scooters also. The children were both standing on the scooters, doing nothing but holding the handlebars. And I thought, ‘That mother’s not walking them to school, she’s Sherpa’ing them to school’.  

Sherpas are Himalayan people, skilled in mountaineering, who often aid Everest climbers by carrying a lot of their gear and guiding them. Many people argue that any ascent fully catered by Sherpas, is not really climbing in the true sense of the word, because most of the hard work is done by Sherpas. 

I see parents often acting as Sherpas for their children by doing most of the labouring work. Carrying the child’s schoolbags is one very common example. And it is not just when they are young. I’ve seen parents of high school children carry their child’s bag in and out of school, while the child strolls along, unencumbered by their responsibilities. 

Parents literally taking on the load for their child is problematic because it mucks up the status system in the family. Children can easily start to think that their own needs are far more important than other people’s, and that their parents are there to do all of the shlepping for them. I often see these children speak rudely to their parents, almost as if they are just the maid or butler. 

But it particularly galls me when parents are doing most of the hard work for their child’s success. You can see this when parents take on the majority of work for their child’s assignments, by doing the research, organising their essay structure, and over-editing their child’s work to be much more representative of the parent’s ability than that of the child. 

Another area I see this is in a teen’s Year 12 year. Some parents, eager to enable their child to do well in their ATAR scores, start to take on Sherpa responsibilities of doing all of the child’s share of family chores during the year. These parents might take time off in the child’s exam week to cook them breakfast every day and be there for them.
 
The big problem when parents Sherpa their child to an Everest level essay result or ATAR score is that it ends up not really being the child’s victory. The child can start to count on abilities they don’t really have, and start to develop an ego that doesn’t really match their skills. 

This will mean that the first time they take on a challenge outside of their parent’s assistance, it might feel much more onerous. Unused to juggling a range of responsibilities while taking on tasks, they might be more inclined to withdraw from the challenge. It is perhaps no surprise that children who did very well at school, might drop out at the earliest difficult time of their university course, or the first time they have a tricky week in their new job.

It’s understandable that parents want to carry their child’s load, but it is not helpful to them. You can show your encouragement by supporting them through your care and presence, but resist the urge to take on some of their responsibilities, as you do them no favours. Keep them doing their fair portion of family chores and let them do their own assignment. 

It might be a smaller mountain they end up climbing, but the accomplishment and sense of triumph will truly be theirs alone. 

Takeaway for parents
Other areas you should resist Sherpa’ing your child to allow them to take on more responsibility.

·  In late primary and high school, children should be making their breakfast and lunch every morning.
·  As often as you can, get your child to pack and unpack their school bag. If they’re too young, they should be involved a little, ‘What else do you need for school tomorrow?’
·  If your child forgets to bring something to school, then they face the consequence.
· Parents shouldn’t be their back-up luggers.
·  Older children should be sorting out the issues with their phone, such as calling the provider if there are any problems. 

© Judith Locke

Dr Judith Locke is a Clinical Psychologist and child wellbeing specialist who presents sessions for parents and teachers at schools around Australia, New Zealand and internationally. For more of Judith’s work read her parenting books, The Bonsai Child or The Bonsai Student. You can also follow her Facebook pages The Bonsai Child or Confident and Capable.  

Ngā manaakitanga,


Jennifer Ioannou
Director Marsden Primary

Student of the Week

Character Strength: Perspective - Sai Parekh, Year 6

Sai you are able to listen to, understand and accept the points of view of other children in the class, as well as those of fictional characters. This enables you to see the world from many different angles and understand where people are coming from. 

Congratulations, Sai!

Invitation - Artist in Residence Exhibition Opening

25 June, 5.30-7.30pm
 
William Docherty, artist, painter and sculptor is Marsden's 2021 Artist in Residence. You are warmly invited to attend our always popular Artist in Residence Exhibition opening. Please find your invitation here. RSVP to rsvp@marsden.school.nz by 23 June.  

Exhibition runs 24 June - 11 July, 10am - 5pm daily. NZ Academy of Fine Arts, Queens Wharf, Wellington. Artworks are for sale

Choral Training at the Cathedral

Enjoy singing? Wellington Cathedral of St Paul is recruiting singers for the Cathedral Choristers, a choir of boys and girls aged 8-14. The Choristers rehearse twice a week on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and lead the sung worship at the Cathedral every Thursday evening. They get to participate in fun activities together as well as gaining excellent music training (free!). If you are interested in your daughter being a part of the Choristers, please contact Director of Music Michael Stewart on dom@wellingtoncathedral.org.nz or talk to Chaplain Sarah King for more information sarah.king@marsden.school.nz

Towards 150 - Marsden Foundation

Although 2028 is still a little way off, we are already embarking on an exciting journey towards our 150th anniversary.  One of the first key milestones on our journey Towards 150 is to establish the Marsden Foundation. The Foundation, and its members, will form part of a group of dedicated individuals and families committed to the long term prosperity of the school.

The success of the Foundation in raising funds will be enabled by the partnerships and relationships we have with all parts of the community – and we would like your help. We are seeking expressions of interest from Marsden Parents who would be keen to be inaugural members of our Foundation Board. The Marsden Foundation Board will work alongside the Principal, the Marsden Development Office and the Management Board, to explore many and varied ways to achieve our goals.

Members of the Marsden Foundation Board will be fundraising champions.  We are excited by the opportunity that the establishment of the Foundation will bring us, in engaging with our whole community in this meaningful work, for the benefit of both current and future Marsden students.  I invite you to get in touch with alison.mcmanus@marsden.school.nz over the next week or so if you are interested in discussing this opportunity.

Old St Pauls is celebrating 155 years - Evensong 27 June

Attached is an invitation from the Friends of Old St Pauls to Marsden families to help celebrate 155 years. They would love to see Marsden families attend evensong 5pm on Sunday 27 June.

Family Zone (Cyber Safety)

Family Zone brings together the best cyber safety people, organisations and technology into one easy to use service. Family Zone empowers you with extensive tools to manage your kids’ cyber activity at home and out and about. And in a world first innovation, Family Zone gives you access to the recommendations and ongoing support of cyber safety experts. For more information click here

Jennifer Evans Dance Academy

The Jennifer Evans Dance Academy is located in the Rua Chandler Studio at Marsden. Check out her website for more information about classes in jazz, tap, ballet, contemporary, and hip hop.

Absences

Please notify the school by 8.30am of your child's absence or lateness.  Please email absences@marsden.school.nz or call 476 8707 and choose the option for Absences.  You can also communicate your child's absence via the School App.  Messages may be left 24 hours a day.  Parents are asked not to request leave or time out of school for students during the term unless absolutely necessary.  If an absence is required the request should be made well in advance, in writing, to the Principal.  Dental and medical appointments and driving lessons should be made outside of school hours.  

2021 TERM DATES

For 2021 Term Dates see here.